Problems with dating sites
On one end, you might spend less time in dingy stinky dive bars hoping the next drink will make her/him attractive. Once you go onto an online dating site, you might have your profile protected from public view but let’s FACE IT; Your pretty face is being solicited in public for everyone to see. At the very least it says, “I’m single and looking for action.” I know if any of my friends saw my face on one of these sites, I’d hear my coworkers saying, “so Lief, I saw you on Tinder the other day. ” San Francisco is not a big town and if you are looking for other singles in a tight proximity, there is a high chance you can find someone you already know. 64% of people said they were driven by common interests (Source: Statisticbrain). They use 400 questions on the e Harmony survey so I’m sure they can link up commonality in some form or another with a ton of unqualified potential partners. This is your real life and if you don’t have a good story, you are probably doing it wrong. In theory, it certainly cuts off a lot of the old school courtship practice, but not without compromise. A little grayscale and free transform and you can make any fat face blotchy skinned slob look classic, fit and refined. Suppose you’re a nice guy/girl that’s a hair less than stunningly beautiful. The other problem I see with online dating is that every person in inundated with selection, and naturally, everyone wants to sync up with the most attractive person they can. I submitted all my data to this website and the the algorithm hooked us up. Tinder has some potential for adventure, but that app is like taking the 1-10 rating scale and just going binary.When she took a look at her matches' matches — the other women he had been paired up with — she found some striking commonalities.She also found some key differences between their profiles and her own.Second, because she had been busy when she filled out the site's questionnaire, she had simply copy-pasted information from her resume into the blank spaces below the questions. Using her findings, Webb gave her profile a make-over.Where the site had asked for a description of her, Webb had copy-pasted that she was "an award-winning journalist and a future thinker." In contrast, Webb's competitors all had great profile photos (well-lit, perfectly positioned, etc.) and filled their descriptions with words like "love," "family," and "fun." These women seemed friendly, Webb realized. She included better photos, for example, and used more fun, open language to describe herself. Now do it over again, and this time, answer honestly.
Webb tracked everything from the number of times a date made her high-five him to how often he made an awkward sexual remark. "It turns out that these probably weren't bad guys," she says in a TED talk.First, she realized, she'd selected terrible photos of herself to present to the world.Of the three she'd included in her profile, one was too zoomed out to even see her, another was too close-up to be flattering on anyone, and a third was poorly lit.As a result, users get matched up with people they have nothing in common with and, date after torturous date, they're left asking themselves 'What is wrong with me? To get the date you really want, you have to hack the system.Lucky for you, Webb, who's also a already done all the grunt work.
This goes back to what people are looking for in online dating. I have a flag system worked out for every type of sketch ball. Yellow cards are dished out to dates with a number higher than 30, or ones that walk out of the restroom with a powder coated nose.